Picky?

Rome has really developed an independent attitude. I don't mind it so much. I chase him around all day anyway. When it comes to meals, I am not so thrilled. It started that he wanted to feed himself. So, he eats finger foods like cheerios and cheese. Then, he wouldn't let me feed him unless he had a spoon, and then a bowl. Fine, just extra things to clean. Now, he won't let me feed him at all. He is very good at shaking his head "no" and it means No! He does it the entire meal and will not open his mouth for anything coming from me. (Unless, I am eating and it is off of my plate.) He won't eat pieces of banana or peach or sandwich. I just don't quite know what to do with this kid. I know I am worried about a little thing and he is not going to starve. He has been nursing before every meal and at night. I am super happy about that after the complete strike a couple weeks ago. I just keep wondering what else can I do? He gets 3 to 4 meals a day and every one ends with me frustrated. Ugh!! Suggestions anyone?